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Wtfbbq

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Hi all. Im new here. Thinking of divorce for sometimes now. My marriage is up and down with my husband , its like a vicious cycle. I have a special needs child and no family support. Hence I'm afraid to divorce but i know i need to. Im exhausted from all his berate & threats everyday.
Hello!
Very sorry to hear this. It's definitely not an easy decision to make & only yourself can make this decision yourself. Perhaps you would like to share more of your case? Take care!
 

piera

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Thanks for creating a unique inclusive space for a special "cause". Beginning divorce proceedings soon, mom to a 3 year old. Generally looking for individual support (how to heal and cope with loneliness) and managing co-parenting/single-parenting expectations. Hope to connect with people with similar stories.
 

voltra

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Staff member
Thanks for creating a unique inclusive space for a special "cause". Beginning divorce proceedings soon, mom to a 3 year old. Generally looking for individual support (how to heal and cope with loneliness) and managing co-parenting/single-parenting expectations. Hope to connect with people with similar stories.
Hi! Glad to be around for each other :)

Share more in other sections yea
 

twilightzone28

New member
Hello.. actually i don't need any help bec lot of things have happened. I just want to hear about people in similar situations like myself.
 

goldfish99

New member
HI everyone ,I been staying with my mum for the past 3 years and have 2 teenage sons, who are staying with their well off dad.My spouse does not want to sign on the divorce and prefers to leave me dangling.
 

caelitus

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I am a Singaorean male going through an international marriage divorce with 1 child. Will share more in the private section. It is a pity I did not stumble across this earlier.
 

Zorro

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I am Henry Sporean male aged 56 and married for 28 years with 2 children and my wife has initiated divorce proceedings against me. It is the most painful episode for me and my children. Hope to have some support here.
 

Sunset

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Hi, I have been unofficially separated for more than 14 years and hope to have a closure. Mom to a 15 year old daughter. Hope to connect with mummies in similar plight. Looking for suitable lawyer for uncontested divorce and advice on maintenance as I am currently not working.
 

Jessy

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Hi I just signed my divorce papers in Oct 2020. 45yo Sporean mom with 3 kids (2 uni + 1 pri). I'm scared I'll end up being alone for the rest of my life.
 
Hi I just signed my divorce papers in Oct 2020. 45yo Sporean mom with 3 kids (2 uni + 1 pri). I'm scared I'll end up being alone for the rest of my life.
Engage in hobbies....U never know who U will meet.
If you really dont meet....at least U have fun with your hobbies.
 

caelitus

New member
Hi, I have been unofficially separated for more than 14 years and hope to have a closure. Mom to a 15 year old daughter. Hope to connect with mummies in similar plight. Looking for suitable lawyer for uncontested divorce and advice on maintenance as I am currently not working.
A smaller firm may have more time for you and respond really fast. It is also good if they specialise in Family Law. Have you found one?
 

caelitus

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Hi I just signed my divorce papers in Oct 2020. 45yo Sporean mom with 3 kids (2 uni + 1 pri). I'm scared I'll end up being alone for the rest of my life.
If your youngest child is under your care & control, you will not feel lonely. Is that so?

Your eldest two may be in the university but they will spend time with you if the bond is strong. WCisUnfair has a good suggestion which applies even if we are still married because the truth is our children will gravitate towards their friends as they get older. Unless our relationship is so strong that they treat us as their best friend.
 

Optimeow

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My wife left me last week. We have been married for 4 years. Not a long time but not very short either.

Just 10 days ago, I thought I had a happy family. Snuggled her in bed, kissed her goodnight.
The next day, she was gone. Left my house half empty and a big hole in my heart.

She moved everything, including furniture that she thinks is hers (even stuff like the waffle maker!).
She took our cat too (whom I love dearly).

I am devastated. I spent last weekend meeting family and friends talking about it.
This is my first weekend alone. I am lost. I am used to thinking for "us" ever since we were dating. Now I am back to thinking for myself.

I want to find back my hobbies but have no mood to do it. I occupy myself by doing household chores and small repairs.
I keep things in their place, in denial. Hoping that she will decide to come back soon.
I keep her private stash of snacks in place too. She doesn't like me eating them.

I thought that my grief was pushing me into clinical depression so I visited IMH. Doctor said I was okay and that the emotions I am going through is normal. I was discharged without even a prescription of medicine.

I tried contacting her but she seems to be saying things to make me have closure.

Our marriage counsellor said that she has been considering this for a long time. That I was right to sense her emotionally detaching herself from me a few months ago.

Everyone keeps telling me that time will heal my wounds. I find it hard to let go of someone who was, up until last week, my next-of-kin. I lost not only my wife but the cat that we brought up from a kitten.

I admit that I did not pamper her as much as she would like. She thinks that she has put enough into this marriage and I put in no effort at all. from my perspective, whatever I have put in seems to have been taken for granted.

In short, she stopped loving me. There are no 3rd parties involved nor did we have financial problems.

I acknowledge that my situation is not the worst. Many people have had it harder.

I just needed an avenue to air my thoughts.
 
My wife left me last week. We have been married for 4 years. Not a long time but not very short either.

Just 10 days ago, I thought I had a happy family. Snuggled her in bed, kissed her goodnight.
The next day, she was gone. Left my house half empty and a big hole in my heart.

She moved everything, including furniture that she thinks is hers (even stuff like the waffle maker!).
She took our cat too (whom I love dearly).

I am devastated. I spent last weekend meeting family and friends talking about it.
This is my first weekend alone. I am lost. I am used to thinking for "us" ever since we were dating. Now I am back to thinking for myself.

I want to find back my hobbies but have no mood to do it. I occupy myself by doing household chores and small repairs.
I keep things in their place, in denial. Hoping that she will decide to come back soon.
I keep her private stash of snacks in place too. She doesn't like me eating them.

I thought that my grief was pushing me into clinical depression so I visited IMH. Doctor said I was okay and that the emotions I am going through is normal. I was discharged without even a prescription of medicine.

I tried contacting her but she seems to be saying things to make me have closure.

Our marriage counsellor said that she has been considering this for a long time. That I was right to sense her emotionally detaching herself from me a few months ago.

Everyone keeps telling me that time will heal my wounds. I find it hard to let go of someone who was, up until last week, my next-of-kin. I lost not only my wife but the cat that we brought up from a kitten.

I admit that I did not pamper her as much as she would like. She thinks that she has put enough into this marriage and I put in no effort at all. from my perspective, whatever I have put in seems to have been taken for granted.

In short, she stopped loving me. There are no 3rd parties involved nor did we have financial problems.

I acknowledge that my situation is not the worst. Many people have had it harder.

I just needed an avenue to air my thoughts.
10 days is too short.
Takes months.
Evaluate yourself. If U think there is nothing U would have changed....then accept the fact that she has changed and move on yourself.
 

Wtfbbq

New member
Hi folks! Just an update, i officially divorced!

Thanks for all the support thus far! Is there any situation i should keep a look out for? Should I un-friend my ex-wife on social media platform? IDK just asking! :)
 
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