My wife left me last week. We have been married for 4 years. Not a long time but not very short either.
Just 10 days ago, I thought I had a happy family. Snuggled her in bed, kissed her goodnight.
The next day, she was gone. Left my house half empty and a big hole in my heart.
She moved everything, including furniture that she thinks is hers (even stuff like the waffle maker!).
She took our cat too (whom I love dearly).
I am devastated. I spent last weekend meeting family and friends talking about it.
This is my first weekend alone. I am lost. I am used to thinking for "us" ever since we were dating. Now I am back to thinking for myself.
I want to find back my hobbies but have no mood to do it. I occupy myself by doing household chores and small repairs.
I keep things in their place, in denial. Hoping that she will decide to come back soon.
I keep her private stash of snacks in place too. She doesn't like me eating them.
I thought that my grief was pushing me into clinical depression so I visited IMH. Doctor said I was okay and that the emotions I am going through is normal. I was discharged without even a prescription of medicine.
I tried contacting her but she seems to be saying things to make me have closure.
Our marriage counsellor said that she has been considering this for a long time. That I was right to sense her emotionally detaching herself from me a few months ago.
Everyone keeps telling me that time will heal my wounds. I find it hard to let go of someone who was, up until last week, my next-of-kin. I lost not only my wife but the cat that we brought up from a kitten.
I admit that I did not pamper her as much as she would like. She thinks that she has put enough into this marriage and I put in no effort at all. from my perspective, whatever I have put in seems to have been taken for granted.
In short, she stopped loving me. There are no 3rd parties involved nor did we have financial problems.
I acknowledge that my situation is not the worst. Many people have had it harder.
I just needed an avenue to air my thoughts.